I've noticed one really important change in my conversations from the past couple of weeks - listening. I'm not used to it, I'm used to debating. We learned debating in school. We memorized facts, analyzed patterns, built arguments. You could be right or wrong, but never both, or neither. We became educated adults, knowing that real, open conversations always end with a winner and a loser.
I've written about this in the past. In January 2018, I linked it to handwashing. In October 2018 I added that facts are not trump cards, as I did in April 2019.
Debates are not conversations, and often both sides lose. Sure, you might disagree, but you already know that. A lot of us need to shut up and listen, to throw away our education, so that we can finally learn.
